Close Christ-Centered Friendships

Gary DeLashmutt
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

God wants us to be able to have relationships that can go deeper than just a casual friendship. These close friendships involve regular time spent, vulnerability, and sacrificially loving one another. These relationships are often the venue for us to experience true Biblical love.

Serving Love and Sexuality

Dennis McCallum
1 Thessalonians 4:1-8

God's will for Christians in the area of sexuality is to serve others by abstaining from sex outside of marriage and pursuing a life centered around God's view of love. Contrary to popular belief, this command is not a mere cultural construct but rather the only path to a fulfilling and healthy life, and research has shown that following the world's view of sexuality has serious consequences. Christians who are single can prepare for their future marriages and sex lives by growing in God's love and learning relational skills in the body of Christ now.

Wise Marriage Choices

Scott Risley
Proverbs 31:1-31

These proverbs were written by King Lemuel as dictated to him by his mother. In this 22 lined acrostic poem, his mother describes what attributes to look for in a future wife of godly character. Her descriptions are not just limited to a potential wife but are wise guideposts for all Christians who are waiting and searching for a godly spouse. The teaching concludes with personal advice from Scott Risley on how he approached the significant and spiritual decision of choosing a spouse.

An Ideal Woman (or man)

Dennis McCallum
Proverbs 31:1-31

Choosing who to marry is one of the most important decisions in life. It is important to pick the right person but to also become the right person. The Proverbs paints a picture of the type of marriage that is godly. That the husband and wife both have roles to play and finding someone who already has the characteristics described in the Proverbs will help set your marriage up for success. There are also some very clear warnings in the Proverbs on characteristics that can lead to failure.

Wise Wives

Jess Lowery
Proverbs 14:1

This acrostic poem by Lemuel concludes the book of Proverbs. According to Lemuel, an excellent wife is extremely valuable. Excellent wives are trustworthy, helpful, hardworking, strong, perceptive, generous, unafraid, respectful, willing to learn and teach, kind, shepherding, and praiseworthy. The three things that can make a woman attractive are charm, beauty, and the fear of the Lord, but only the third quality can stand the test of time. A wise wife strives to build up her household, not destroy it.\r\n

God's Wisdom and Major Life Decisions

Gary DeLashmutt
1 Corinthians 7:17-24

Paul encourages believers in the Corinthian church to remain single but reminds us that there are exceptions to Biblical principles such as this. Though there isn't a formula for knowing when to follow Biblical principles regarding major life decisions and when to make an exception, the key is in understanding the wisdom that undergirds it. There are a few things we can consider before we make a major decision: what we have learned through the circumstance we want to change, why we want to change the situation, and whether we have sought godly counsel. The answer to these questions will reveal whether we are pursuing the wisdom of the world (the better my circumstances, the happier I'll be) or the wisdom of God (I can serve and love others regardless of my circumstances).

Adultery and Pornography, Part 1

Ryan Lowery
1 Corinthians 6:18-19

God intended sex to be enjoyed within the confines of heterosexual marriage. Adultery (extramarital sex) is a powerful temptation and trap, and leads to death and destruction. There are three components essential to avoiding adultery: 1) avoiding temptation; 2) acknowledging what is at risk; and 3) investing deeply in your marital sex life.\r\n

Submitting to One Another

Dennis McCallum
Ephesians 5:21-33

The Bible, more than any other religious text, promotes equality on all levels. The Bible's example of leadership, through Jesus, is that of servant leadership. Submission in the Biblical context means being willing to be responsive to the ways that the other person is trying to lead and serve you.

Balancing Home Life and Ministry

Patrice McCormac
Ephesians 5:21-33

When kids come into the picture, the temptation to decrease our involvement in ministry and fellowship raises immensely. In order to guard our own hearts from falling into this temptation that our culture feeds, we must recognize why we involve ourselves with ministry in the first place. It makes us better parents, it models healthy relating (both to people and to God) to our children, it teaches our kids valuable lessons, and ultimately it is because of the great joy of being made new in Christ! With this understanding, we can equip ourselves with some practical suggestions for how to schedule our lives in such a way that we minister to both our families and to the others God has placed before us.